Wednesday, May 26, 2010


Have you ever noticed when someone says "No disrespect meant..." or "With all due respect..." what follows is usually not terribly respectful?

It is so much easier to request/demand/expect respect for the issues and causes we believe in than it is to offer it to issues and causes we disagree with.

We have almost entirely lost the ability to argue and disagree respectfully. Even when it starts that way, when the other person doesn't change their mind, it devolves.

Agreeing to disagree and/or admitting we recognize and acknowledge the other side and experience ~ and still don't change our minds ~ isn't acceptable. We don't want respectful disagreement; we want to be right.

Somewhere along the line, being right took the place of being respected.

Just some things I've noticed the last week or so.

Those are Pobble Thoughts. That and a buck fifty will get you coffee.


MikeC said...

Remember the self-help guru from the late 1970's/early 1980's Jerry Jampolski? He asked, "Would you rather be happy or right?" Seems many people would choose "right."

Hermes said...

You are totally wrong here. How dare you suggest that passion for the truth take a back seat to "people skills"? Ridiculous.
WITH ALL DUE RESPECT, you must change your mind or we may never speak again.

I blame Plato. His "socratic method" is a bunch of hooey. The only conclusions at which he ever arrived were his own. His "questioning" were just character dialogues. No character ever said anything Plato didn't wan tthem to say. And upon this method is founded Western thought.

And now I apologize for my friend Mr. Jim, who wrote the intro for this particular comment. He only comes out when I drink my gin.

Ahhhh. It is rather nice to be back. You rock.

BostonPobble said...

Mike C ~ While I don't know the person to whom you refer, I think you are correct. Sadly.

GOML! ~ Ah, there would definitely be times that Mr. Jim and I could get along ~ or would start an international incident between our countries. Of course, there would have to be vodka on my side of the border. And I have always found Plato to be particularly suspect for this very reason, myself. If vodka was involved or not (but more vocally so with the vodka, probably unsurprisingly). Don't go away too long again, okay>