Thursday, March 05, 2009

Listen to the Silence

I'm alone in the house.

Lithus is at a job interview (a story for another time); Timber is at school. I'm alone in the house.

Now, Lithus and I are both the kind of people who need some time to ourselves. However, I work from home and he doesn't have an office to go to when he's not flying. He hasn't really flown since September. This is a lot of together time. And you know what? I had no idea how much together it had been until just now, writing this post, which must be why we got married. Still, part of why it works is that we are both really great about understanding when the other needs some alone time. Neither is offended by the other disappearing into the office, the bedroom or the bath tub without the other. A walk or a drive or a visit with friends is practically de rigeur.

But that's different. That's giving the other some space or taking some breathing room or hanging out in one's own head for a bit. That's not the same as being completely alone in the house. Which I am. Until sometime after 3:00 today.

Ahhhhhhhhhhh... Just...listen.

Those are Pobble Thoughts. That and a buck fifty will get you coffee.


2 Dollar Productions said...

I know exactly what you mean, and more importantly, my wife does as well. Soak it up & enjoy it & then enjoy when he's back. I love finding the balance as both have fine merits.

Hermes said...

Words like violence
Break the silence
Come crashing in
Into my little world
Painful to me
Pierce right through me
Cant you understand
Oh my little girl

All I ever wanted
All I ever needed
Is here in my arms
Words are very unnecessary
They can only do harm

Now you hve something stuck in your head to enjoy. Sliante!

Rose said...

Understanding each others' needs is the beginning of a long lasting relationship. It's good to know and understand each other.

Lori Stewart Weidert said...

I really do think that Clint's odd schedule plays a part in what makes us work; he works every 3rd day, which can suck sometimes, but at the same time, I look forward to evenings home alone, doing whatever I want, concentrating on writing or puttering around the house, or just NOT turning on the tv. He also gets plenty of sans-Lori time, having 2 days off while I"m at work. That part: not so much fun.

Dennis R. Upkins said...

Yes, listen and enjoy the silence.

Graziella said...

I had wondered about that. Good for you!

BostonPobble said...

$$ ~ It is about the balance - and finding someone else who appreciates it as well. We're both lucky (as are our respective spouses *wink*).

GOML! ~ You know, that song was going through my head as I wrote the post. I'm not sure you could be of our generation and NOT think of that song during a post like that. Thanks for a fuller version of the lyrics than I had though.

Rose ~ It really is, on all counts.

GNGirl ~ I have never understood people who wanted to be together ALL THE TIME. Sometimes, funky work schedules are our friends.

Dennis R ~ I did, thanks.

Graziella ~ This was resolved back before we moved to the "new" place. Otherwise, we wouldn't have been able to move together. ;)

Pharmyard said...

There is a very big difference between alone time and being alone. One is a choice and the other just happens. For those of us that like a little more control over our own lives the latter can be a little unsettling. It does however make spending time with the people we care about more meaningful.