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Thursday, January 26, 2006

It Only Hurts When I Breathe

I dreamt about my ex husband today. We weren't together but we were friends again. We were laughing.

I am shocked and truly blindsided by how much this hurts.

Those are Pobble Thoughts. That and a buck fifty will get you coffee.

7 comments:

dondon009 said...

Becoming friends...... is that not a possibility?

This heart's been broken, on more than one occasion...... but I found that in time, the wounds heal. I forgive, I don't forget... which seems to give me some leverage.

Anonymous said...

...and it WILL hurt. You only made a committment to this man who committed to love you and be with you until death parted the two of you...why shouldn't it hurt? It's okay that it hurts. That means that he didn't distroy what is inside of you. You can still love! You are still feeling! (Not that I ever had any doubt that you wouldn't) You're a survivor. You are the epitome of survivor. You are resilient.
You are gonna be okay...BETTER than okay.
You know you had that dream because of our 2+ hour convo on the phone yesterday, right?
Have a "Coke" and a smile, Baby! That can "fix" anything! (lol)

I love you-The One

Lori Stewart Weidert said...

Ouch. I feel your pain, I've worn many a dream for 2 or 3 days, and can summon them up today. Hang in there, Pobble!

christine mtm said...

i still dream about the ex-asshole on occassion and it freaks me out everytime.

love you

btw, the first four letters of my word verification are h-o-p-e.

Nemeria said...

Oh, honey. I'm sorry. That's really tough. Listen to "The One." Her comment is dead on.


I must tell you, though, you were in my dream last night and now I understand why your normal fashion sense seemed to have deserted you. You were obviously distracted - why else would you have so strongly recommended a Mullet haircut for me? (It looked horrible, by the way, even with you trying to convince me how great it was! Imagine your 4th grade hair and my 5th grade hair on my current-age head! YIKES!)

Peace friend, Moraccan food and ice skating are very close at hand!

Tai said...

Those dreams can be so sad.

Ah well, good thing they are only dreams!

Jaded said...

You may not have stayed together until you were parted by death, but the end of any significant relationship is truly a death, if only sybolic. You have to mourn the loss of the person you planned to be with. You have to mourn the loss of the hopes and dreams you had for the future. The fact that you no longer love him the way you once did doesn't erase the love you felt for him at one time. It was real and it was tangible at one point in your life. Maybe the dream was meant to show you that you once genuinely liked him as a human being. That doesn't mean you have to be BFFs, but maybe it means that you can let go of any anger and resentment you still might have for the end of it, and move on with the knowledge that you loved honestly and deeply once, and you can do it again.

Just my opinion.

My word verification: LOVYU